What Is Black-and-White Thinking? Black-and-white thinking, also called all-or-nothing thinking, is when we see things in extremes. This type of thinking creates a world where everything is either fantastic or terrible. There’s no room for the in-between. It’s like having only two crayons: black and white. But life is full Read more…
The Dangers of Comparison Comparison can be a toxic trap that steals joy and diminishes self-worth. It’s easy to look around and think others have it better—prettier, smarter, or more successful. This leads to feelings of inadequacy and isolation. But comparison is not new; it’s been around for centuries, and Read more…
Why Taking Things Personally Feels So Good It’s easy to take things personally when someone says something that sounds like an insult. At first, it might feel good to get angry or upset. It makes you feel like you have the right to be mad at someone. But in the Read more…
Inspired by the insightful dialogue of “Simple Habits to Embrace in Your Marriage” from Focus on the Family, this article delves into the importance of nurturing your marriage through simple, practical habits. Dr. Randy Schroeder shares wisdom gleaned from decades of counseling, emphasizing the crucial role of managing expectations and Read more…
Inspired by the enlightening broadcast “Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage (Part 1 of 2)” from Focus on the Family, this article delves into the dynamic journey of marital relationships. Just as natural seasons change, so do the seasons of a marriage, bringing their own unique challenges and Read more…
Navigate marriage storms by understanding yelling reasons, recognizing problems, and using practical strategies—pray, read devotionals, get counseling, and find support in your community for lasting change grounded in love and faith.
Living together outside of marriage has become more and more common in recent years, but the Bible teaches that this is not God’s plan for our relationships. Many couples choose to move in together without clear intentions to marry. While some may believe cohabitation before marriage is beneficial for their Read more…
Marital negativity can take a heavy toll on both emotional and physical health. Studies has shown that couples who engage in negative communication patterns are more vulnerable to illness, making it crucial for us to understand the impact of such patterns on our health. According to Dyadic stress theories, negative Read more…
The Harvard University’s Study of Adult Development is one of the world’s longest studies of adult life. The study began in 1938 during the Great Depression and followed the lives of 268 Harvard sophomores. The scientists behind the study hoped to discover clues to leading healthy and happy lives. The Read more…
Demand/withdraw patterns are communication behaviors that commonly occur in relationships, particularly in conflict situations. In this pattern, one partner makes demands, criticisms, or complaints, while the other partner withdraws, avoids, or shuts down. This type of communication can be detrimental to the relationship as it creates a cycle of negative Read more…