Living together outside of marriage has become more and more common in recent years, but the Bible teaches that this is not God’s plan for our relationships. Many couples choose to move in together without clear intentions to marry. While some may believe cohabitation before marriage is beneficial for their eventual marriage, research has shown that this is not the case. Instead, cohabitation can actually lead to lower quality and less stable unions. The Bible teaches us that we should not conform to the patterns of this world, but rather be transformed by renewing our minds.

The Importance of Commitment in Marriage

One important biblical example of God’s plan for marriage can be found in the book of Genesis, where God created Adam and Eve to be united in marriage as one flesh (Genesis 2:24). Marriage is meant to be a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman, and living together outside of marriage is not in accordance with God’s plan. The apostle Paul also wrote about the importance of marriage and the need to avoid sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 7:2).

Living together outside of marriage can lead to a lack of commitment and can make it easier to accept divorce as a solution to problems in the relationship. We are called to be committed to our spouses and to work through our problems together. Proverbs 3:3-4 says, “Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.”

Another reason why living together before marriage can be harmful is that it can lead to multiple cohabiting partners before marriage. This can put couples at an especially high risk of later divorce when they do marry. The Bible teaches that we should flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18) and that we should avoid being unequally yoked with non-believers (2 Corinthians 6:14). It is important to seek a partner who shares our values and beliefs.

Finally, when couples just “slide” into cohabitation, rather than “decide” to be together, they risk getting locked into a relationship with someone who is not the best fit for them. It is important to seek God’s guidance when it comes to our relationships and to trust in His plan for our lives. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

Choosing a Committed Relationship Over Cohabitation

While it may be tempting to follow the trend of cohabitation, we must remember that this is not God’s plan for our relationships. Instead, we should seek a committed relationship with a partner who shares our values and beliefs, and who is committed to building a lifelong marriage with us. We should trust in God’s plan for our lives and seek His guidance in all our decisions.

Action Step: If you are currently living with your partner outside of marriage, consider what steps you can take to align your relationship with God’s plan. This may mean discussing marriage with your partner or seeking support from a trusted Christian Couples counselor. Remember, it is never too late to make positive changes in your relationship and seek God’s guidance for your future together.